Relationships

How to End a Toxic Relationship

According to Dr. Phil, “The only thing worse than being in a bad relationship for a year is being in it for a year and a day.” I asked my Facebook friends to tell me what a toxic relationship is. Here are some quotes. “One that will make you sick.” “One that diminishes and devalues…

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How to Forgive Your Father

People are often surprised to learn that my late father was a minister. When they try to label me a “PK”, “preacher’s kid,” I tell them, I’m not really a preacher’s kid since I didn’t grow up in my father’s house. My parents divorced when I was a toddler. My father remarried. His new wife…

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Three Reasons to Say No

“Learn how to say no. Don’t let your mouth overload your back.” The late business philosopher Jim Rohn warned that we over commit ourselves when we say yes to too many opportunities. It sounds selfish to say no to people and to worthy causes. We are all good at many things but only great at…

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What I Learned from My Mother

The first recorded battle between my mother and me occurred when I was three years old. According to my mother, she had swatted my behind several times, and I refused to cry. Finally, I looked her in the eye and said, “You’re stupid.” While I don’t remember that incident, it sounds like something I would…

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How to Create Margin in Your Life

Money management experts advise us to live on 90% of our income and to save 10%. Time management experts tell us to only schedule 65% of our day. These principles seem reasonable enough. Not only do we need margin in our finances and time, we need emotional margin. We shouldn’t take on every single project…

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Happy Father’s Day?

I was trying to schedule a dinner/lunch date with a girlfriend. She reminded me that the Sunday I suggested was Father’s Day. Being the child of a single mom and being a single mom myself, Father’s Day has never meant much to me. My father was absent for most of my childhood even though he…

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God Blesses Single Mothers

Flowers, jewelry, and steaks on the grill were a part of many Mother’s Day celebrations this month. But for many single moms, Mother’s Day is another day of struggle, doubt, and loneliness. While we see images of mothers surrounded by doting husbands and children, that picture is not reality for many single mothers. Whether a…

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Uncovered in the Sanctuary?

Did you have a big brother? Maybe you went to school with an older cousin who kept an eye out for you. Perhaps your father was active in your church. If you had these male influences, you felt protected at school, in the neighborhood and at church. But what happens when you’re an adult? Who’s…

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Were You Born a Christian?

I was born a Christian and raised in the AME church. By the time my mother grew tired of going to church, I was religious and managed to get myself to church just about every Sunday. During my college years, I would occasionally party all night, grab breakfast and head straight to church. I was…

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Rejection

Being rejected is painful when it occurs, and the sting can last for decades or even a lifetime. However, there are valuable lessons in rejection. First, rejection is information. I tried three or four network marketing ventures. I never had more than one person in my downline. I personally know a few people who have…

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