How to Break a Bad Habit

Several years ago, I was chatting with a witness in one of my cases. Let’s call this woman, “Lisa.” Lisa had temporary custody of her three-year-old niece. Lisa told me that she had tried to quit smoking for years. One day, Lisa was in the backyard smoking. Her precious niece came outside and ran straight…

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The First Thing

In a few months, Meghan Markle will marry into the British royal family. Whether you love or loathe the most popular monarchy in the world, this marriage is significant. Do you think that Meghan still thinks of herself as a divorcee? Do you think she acts like someone who had a failed marriage? No. She…

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Make Next Year Your Best Year

Imagine that it is December 31st of next year. You are really proud of yourself because you finally did it! After years of trying or talking about trying, you finally accomplished an important goal. How will that feel? Can you see yourself victorious? With a few weeks left in this year, now is the time…

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3 Reasons to Get a Mentor

Thurgood Marshall had Charles Hamilton Houston. Alexander Hamilton had George Washington. Oprah had Maya Angelou. First Black Supreme Court Justice, first Secretary of the Treasury, and billionaire business woman and philanthropist. These extraordinary people all had mentors. You should have one too. Here’s why: 1. A mentor is a valuable sounding board. Planning to fire…

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7 Steps to a Harmonious Holiday Season

I used to work with a woman who had a Christmas tree in every room of her house. I do well to get one tree up before Christmas and down before February. For me the time from Thanksgiving through New Year’s really is “the most wonderful time of the year.” At one time, I used…

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3 Things to Take from Work

Henry Kissinger said, “America has no permanent friends or enemies, only interests.” Once you accept that jobs, clients and employers are temporary allies, your attitude toward work should change. Having benefits, making money, and developing skills are your permanent interests. Your employer pays you to show up. However, there are several things that you can…

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5 Ways You Sabotage Yourself

I used to enjoy watching Alex Rodriguez, also known as A-Rod, play baseball for the Yankees. And then his wife accused him of adultery. He didn’t deny it. Later, he was accused of using steroids. He initially denied using the steroids, and later admitted that he used them to improve his performance. Now retired from…

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You Should Welcome Rejection

Real estate mogul Barbara Corcoran, of Shark Tank fame, was labeled the dumb kid in school. After graduating from high school, she had nearly two dozen short-term jobs before she entered the fast-paced New York real estate market. Now, on Shark Tank, she has told anxious entrepreneurs that she does not like them or trust…

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How to Set Yourself Up for Success

Business expert and motivational coach Chalene Johnson says that to accomplish your goals you will need to do one or more of the following: invest time, invest money, exert discipline. I think we all instinctively know that, but how do we get from knowledge to execution? One way is by creating an environment for success.…

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3 Things to Stop Doing

Would you like to have a completely free day? How would it feel to wake up one morning with no agenda? Just you and a loved one or you and a great book. What about you and a peaceful drive to the beach or the park? You dream of having that kind of time, but…

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